The Soul-filled Cafe Presents:
Colette Kenney ~ Relationship Expert & Host of Love Talk
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Within the last month, my live-in boyfriend of 2 1/2 years moved out and I have to say that it is the best thing that could have happened to me. My life has taken an impressive turn for the better and I am on my way again to being the person I use to be; I would even venture to say a new and improved model of my former self. In recent years, I have learned that everything truly does happen for a reason and that everything has a valuable lesson to teach you. I have realized my lessons from this past relationship and have learned a great deal about myself and what I need to work on to have a successful relationship in the future.
I am torn about remaining friends with him. He thinks we should hang out and do stuff together and that we should hang out with our kids as well. I think that hanging out with him may complicate my life and confuse the kids. While we are both single it may work, but once either one of us enters into another relationship, I can’t see the friendship continuing on. As well, we are not together anymore because of differences we could not overcome and/or accept. Does remaining friends benefit anyone? Is it healthy to hang out with your former boyfriend in a friendly capacity?
Thanks again for your amazing gift of great relationship advice!
Sonya, first of all, I want to say congratulations to you for all the immense strides and accomplishments you have made with your Self and your life. You sound like you’ve really got a GREAT outlook on things!
I particularly want to acknowledge you for seeing that “everything truly does happen for a reason and that everything has a valuable lesson to teach you.” You’re one smart cookie Sonya!
Now, let’s get to answering your question:
Is It Healthy To Hang Out With Your Ex?
The thing about your question is… It’s one of those “Should” types of questions. Whether or not you “should” hang out with your ex, is really a matter that only you can decide for yourself. But, there are certainly things for you to consider in making that decision . . .
To help you out, I am asking some of my “Love Talk” experts.
Love Talk Interview with The Passion Consultant, Barry Selby:
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Love Talk Interview with Mali Apple & Joe Dunn:
Love Talk Interview with Liesel Rigsby:
Love Talk Interview with Stephen Garrett:
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Dating and relationship counselor Colette Kenney is fiercely committed to helping conscious singles kick to the curb their old bad habits in love, clearing the way for powerful, enlightened, gorgeous soulmate relationships.
In addition to her much-loved private practice, Colette has founded lovetalklounge.com, a growing-like-wildfire online community including such acclaimed love experts as Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks, Arielle Ford and Satyen Raja. Colette is also the creator of The Dating Lounge, a place for conscious singles in Calgary – the beautiful city Colette calls home – to learn and connect in person. If you’re ready for full-on, for-real love, write Colette to book a free relationship coaching consultation.
Visit her website at www.lovetalklounge.com
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