Are You Giving Your Power Away to a Coach, Psychic, or Healer?

by Heather on May 15, 2013 · 57 comments

Welcome to the Soul-filled Cafe!

Today’s Guest Expert is Brooke Emery
Executive Producer of The Quest Film, Possibility Synergist and OUTLAW of Attraction


In the book, “The Quest: A Tale of Desire & Magic” by Heather Strang, Kathryn Casey our heroine goes to an African Psychic. His prediction is so specific and she is so desperate to find “The One” she takes this prediction literally and tries to fit MR. WRONG into her life as a result. Admittedly, I have done this myself, and many other friends of mine have been guilty of this as well. The film that we are endeavoring to make deals with this very phenomenon and tackles the addiction to finding “the one” head on.

I am an avid fan of coaches, courses, healers, and psychics, and tools, but when used to control your situation or being stuck in the thinking mind it defeats the purpose. They are there to point you in the direction, but ultimately, it’s our responsibility to listen from the heart and allow the true messages that want to come forth for us to be present.

One summer back in my twenties, I remember how desperate I was to find answers. I felt frustrated that I kept looking outside myself, feeling like I needed these people or this information. My desire to be in control was leading the show and taking my power away.

However, whenever I asked a question, the right answer or resource appeared. At one point, I was led to Carolyn Myss’ “Sacred Contracts.” In this book, she used the analogy of Dorothy from “The Wizard Of Oz,” noting that Dorothy’s guides – the Scarecrow, the Tin Man, the Lion, the Good Witch, the Wizard (and even the Wicked Witch of the West) – were all a part of her journey, but she had the power within to get herself home all along. This was such a powerful message because ultimately we just have to REMEMBER who we are and where to look for the answers.

Just as an FYI, I’m not painting a picture that I have it mastered, because I STILL FORGET and have to be reminded over and over again. I love my guides and I will continue to have my spiritual entourage, but it’s important ultimately up to me to trust my own intuition.

Everyone’s access to their intuition is different, so I am not going to give you tools and rules here; I invite you to create your own process that FEELS good to you.

However, here is what I like to remember for myself and pass on to you: Sometimes the guidance that any teacher, psychic, mentor, or healer is giving you could be leading you in a complete different direction. Translated: don’t get too literal and try to force an answer.

When I feel myself forcing an answer – I know I am out of flow, and I’m in the thinking mind instead of the feeling one. I allow my monkey mind some airtime because it’s not always so easy to switch out of it, but then I ask the question “what do you want me to know?” and usually some answer will appear sometimes it takes longer than I like (but that’s my lovely EGO; always in a rush). Another great question I like to ask is, “Does this feel true to me?” inspired from the wonderful “Access Consciousness” by Gary Douglass and Dr. Dain Heer with the inner knowing that “the truth will make you feel lighter and a lie will make you feel heavier.”

It’s okay if the answer comes from “outside“ help; in fact, we as human beings have blind spots, and it will often take some sort of external stimulus to help us shift our perception. But it’s important to REMEMBER that you ultimately have the answer within yourself.

When working with someone, my new framework is to say to myself, “I am hiring this person to be the mirror for me to help me Remember the truth of who I am. Within me, I have all the answers I need. They are just helping me Windex it.”

The Quest cover

Brooke is the Executive Producer for The Quest Film, based on the book by Heather Strang

When Kathryn Casey, from “The Quest,” was forcing the answer with her psychic prediction and trying to be in control it reminded me of myself. I have been to countless healers, psychics, coaches, to the top of the mountain and back and have tried to finally have the relief of KNOWING.

My dear friend, Barbara George, once said to me when you’re “out of control” (and out of your comfort) is when the miracles occur and you are truly receiving. By out of control, I don’t mean in a destructive sense, but just letting go of NOT knowing or thinking you can control how the picture is going to turn out. Visualize it, and then detach and allow it all to come forward.

As a perpetual student, I will always see coaches, healers, and psychics, but from the filter of being an OUTLAW of attraction (I call myself that for the reminder to NOT control the Laws of the Universe from the thinking mind). Meaning REMEMBERING that we have all that we need to know inside us, to love ourselves fully and completely, and to be in full trust that the UNI-Verse has our back.

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Brooke Emery

Brooke EmerySpiritual entrepreneur Brooke Emery, founder of B. Unlimited Productions, is a Possibility Synergist and Certified Strategic Attraction Coach. She is the Executive Producer for the film “The Quest,” based on the novel by Heather Strang. (The Quest Fan Page on Facebook)

As a Possibility Synergist, Brooke’s true gift is her wide-angle vision of possibility that removes blind spots and reveals opportunities for her partners. She partners with and matches up spiritually minded entrepreneurs, Internet marketing mavens, and creative thinkers, to cross-pollinate and promote progressive joint ventures.

Forbes recognized Brooke as a natural connector who has a “jelly bean jar” of creatively brilliant people in her life. She recently handled the joint ventures for “The Art of Success II” program by David Neagle, the Million Dollar Income Acceleration mentor to Ali Brown, Fabienne Fredrickson, and Suzanne Evans, among other entrepreneurs and personal development leaders.

  • Lisa Marie Selow

    Thanks so much, Heather! :) I always enjoy your Cafe here and your work xoxo (Yes, seems like I wasn’t supposed to have further readings from that person lol). xoxo

  • Lisa Marie Selow

    Thanks for sharing that website xoxo

  • Lisa Marie Selow

    Thanks for putting a language on that. I love that idea of selling in alignment with my spirit. Love your approach too, that resonates with me very much. Thanks for mentioning Sharon’s work too. I appreciate the resources xoxo Thank you so very much.

  • Brooke Emery

    When magical people unite…more magic happens. Let’s throw in a sparkly fairy wand and Harold’s Purple Crayon. I look forward to more.

  • Brooke Emery

    You are so welcome. When you learn to sell that way it actually makes it FUN!!! I never thought I’d say that.
    I wish you so much success and I am excited for your future clients. they are waiting to hear what you have to say so that they can REMEMBER that they are AWESOME. xo

  • Brooke Emery

    Thanks everyone for a beautiful day! I had so much fun being with you. Heather you are AMAZING and am grateful to you for hosting me. LOVE to you all.

  • Heather Gray

    Thank you Brooke, for bringing your charming gifts to the Soul-filled Cafe! I love you my friend.

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