The Super Secret Recipe to Having it All

Super Secret Recipe

Learned While Cooking Brown Rice,  Kombucha Tea and Green Leafy Vegetables.


You have dreams and goals that you’d like to see happen in this lifetime. You’ve created the vision board and your top ten list. And you also have secret desires you keep close to your heart and tell no one at all. And then you check into the reality of your life: the bed still needs to be made, there are dozens of tasks to juggle, and at the end of the day when you flop in front of the TV or a good book, you are happy to have stayed afloat and checked things off the to do list.

How does one “have it all”? The life expansion you see in your dreams with the discipline of day-to-day living?

It’s a struggle we all face. And though many offer up solutions (The Fast Track to Success Program or the Wish Fulfillment Master Class), it will never be enough.  I know, because I’ve probably read that book or taken the class.

Do you want to know the real secret?

Come closer and I’ll share it with you…

Ready? The secret is you must harness two opposing life forces that are contained within you and life itself. Huh? Let me explain…

The secret to having it all was revealed to me back when I was learning about the benefits of brown rice, kombucha tea and green leafy vegetables, within a discipline known as Macrobiotics.  In 2002, I spent a year studying holistic health counseling and nutrition. This discipline is akin to chasing an elusive holy grail for the “perfect balance” to healthy eating. As soon as you think you’ve found it, you have not!  (Tofu good – tofu bad; Atkins vs. the Food Pyramid; raw food or one pot meals….)

Just as the impossibility of finding the exact meal plan that will always work, the secret to having it all in life (your dreams while also needing to take out the trash) will never be found within a simple, one-answer solution. Instead, it lies in embracing the seesaw balance of it all.   In macrobiotics they refer to this as the Chinese labels of YIN and YANG…which together bring wholeness.

How does this look when it comes to your dreams and having it all? YIN is associated with femininity. It is soft, diffuse and tranquil. Just like your vision and dreams. YANG is associated with masculinity. In contrast is is hard, focused, and aggressive. Like your to do list and deadlines.

Your Super Secret Recipe to having it all is to combine the Yin and Yang ingredients and work with both energies.

Here are your recipes.

The YIN path to having what you want:

  • Being Open
  • Following Your Heart
  • Inspiration
  • Flow
  • Letting go and allowing

The YANG way to having what you want:

  • Goal Setting
  • Discipline
  • Persistence
  • Schedule
  • Tasks

Although certain elements may manifest more strongly within your personality or at different times, everything you accomplish has both yin and yang aspects.

Yin and Yang are perfect opposites, one no better than the other. They are, interconnected and interdependent and never truly separate, and together bring wholeness. When you bring the forces of feminine and the masculine together, you have creation.

The next time you catch yourself envisioning your dreams coming true,  while doing the laundry…know that you are striking that perfect and very human balance of yin with yang. Go for it.  Or stop and be still.

To have it all, you need both.

Heather Gray

I am Heather Gray, a life coach, published author, and the founder of Soul-filled Life. I’ve spent thousands of hours helping creative, gorgeous individuals articulate and create lives that they love.  I draw from a background in Psychology, Life Coaching, and Energy Healing to move you towards personal breakthroughs and beautiful life change.